...how much you will grieve the loss of the grandchild you encouraged your daughter to abort.
You may not even know what is bringing on these tears. You may not have connected the choice you made for your daughter years ago to the sadness and emptiness you are feeling now.
When your daughter revealed the pregnancy to you, you may have felt that she was too young, still in school, and not ready for such a responsibility. You may have been upset, angry, shocked, embarrassed. The decision may have been made in haste surrounded by negative emotions.
In the years since, how or where have you buried this memory? Is there a gentle nudging that you have lost a grandchild? Maybe your feelings are not so much about the abortion as about your grandchild lost due to the abortion choice. You may feel it is a loss --- not only for you but also for your dear daughter.
Perhaps you feel the need to seek forgiveness for the part you played, or that you want to offer forgiveness. The anchor for all spiritual healing is Forgiveness. Even if you just start by saying “Lord, I ask for the grace to be willing to receive forgiveness and to extend forgiveness.”
Another step you can take towards healing this love-loss is to name your dear grandchild. It does not matter if you don’t know if it was a boy or a girl. The Lord knows and will be so happy to tell you!
Right now, your dear daughter may not be ready for healing, but you know down deep in your heart that you are.
If you are finding it hard to live in this unresolved grief and guilt about the grandchild you have lost, and the love connection that has been broken by the abortion decision, then let’s start the healing journey.
You may wish to contact us, in confidentiality, to begin the healing journey, or seek a post-abortion healing support group in your area.
We look forward to welcoming you with open arms, and journeying with you.
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